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Templarhawk
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Love, Tis a fickle thing...
Something presented in cartoons as the story of the birds and the bees (I still don't get why)
Something that occurs naturally
Something that sometimes isn't true...
So...Why...I say...
Any opinions?
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BeneFedaykin
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I find that it is in the nature of human beings to seek in others of like mind a certain level of companionship. Sometimes people convince themselves of a deeper connection than truely exists (or could ever exist) between another person and themself. Eventually reality will force her way in, illusions will shatter, and the two persons involved will either break apart or settle to relate on a level of lesser intimacy. This course is not a progression of "love", but an attraction of some form mistaken as love. It is very fickle in nature because it is based on the hopes and dreams of one or both parties.
The 'birds and the bees' is also not "love" related, but a euphemism for reproduction, the differences between the sexes, and/or all manner of things related to the practice of sexual intercourse and "baby making". I would assume that in cartoons, birds are often used to represent "love" because of the monogamistic nature of many bird species and that such portrails have very little to do with bees, so standing apart from the 'birds and the bees' metaphor.
True love (and I hesitate to use these two words together) is not 'a fickle thing' but a strong and lasting bond. I find that it can exist without reciprocation by the 'object of adoration' and can exist alongside conflicting emotions (annoyance, dislike, or even abject animosity). If you find yourself missing a person who you hate having around, this is a kind of love. If you have an arguement and are able to instantly forgive the other party (even if you still feel bitter about the arguement and the disagreement it was about), this too is a type of love. Perhaps in my understanding of love, love is simply an attraction towards the familiar faces that structure our lives.
'Romantic love' (the kind, I fear, TemplarHawk is attempting to address) would fit into my understanding of 'love' as a subcategory.
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BeneFedaykin
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I can't help but wonder if our facination with love is due in part to an over romanticized concept and belief in finding "The One". It is also important to note that different cultures show radically different ideas of how love forms between two individuals while maintaining very similar descriptions of the thing itself. While the Western ideal of the 'high school/college sweethearts' may seem very appealing, we must remember that this is not the only way to find romantic love. Some arranged marriages result in a strong love eventually being shared by the couple. Some don't. The more hung up on love you become, the more illusive it gets. Sometimes going with life's flow is all you need to do.
[Please note that your odds of finding somebody to love greatly improve if you leave your mother's basement once in a while. I'm just saying... ]
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